The words of love on your wedding day

love-messageVows, readings, prayers, hymns, toasts…

It is important to think about the words that will be spoken and sung at your wedding, as they are used to express feelings, joy, and the bride and grooms's promises to one another.

Whilst planning your wedding, you may have come across readings, poems, blessings, prayers and hymns that appeal to you; keep copies in your wedding folder or jot down the names for future reference.

Ask family members (particularly older members) for suggestions, as there may be a particular piece that is always sung, read or prayed on family occasions.

Decide what you would like to have read during the ceremony and who is going to read it.

"I propose a toast to..."

Who would you like to make toasts at the reception? Now is the time to confirm who is to speak. Many key members of the wedding party such as the groom, father of the bride and best man will expect to have to make a speech, but there may be other people who you wish to speak.

Your officiant, the groom’s father, the bride’s mother, the bride herself… there are no limits as to who can make a toast or a speech, but do be aware of timings. Speeches that go on for two hours mean two hours fewer dancing, so it may be worth giving potential speakers a subtle hint to keep things brief.

Incidentally, there is nothing set in stone that says the bride’s father has to speak. If the groom’s father is a great after dinner speaker, why not let him do the honors instead? Not everybody is happy with public speaking and many fathers may feel relieved to have this burden lifted from their shoulders. It often overshadows the whole wedding day as they worry about what they are going to say. A thoughtful way to do this is to bring the bride’s father into the speech by recounting a story on his behalf, or telling his favorite joke, so that he feels part of the proceedings without having to actually speak himself.

"For richer for poorer..."

Now is the time to think about your wedding vows. Your religion may have set vows that you will make, but there may be a chance to personalize your vows according to your individual wishes.

Many contemporary brides choose to remove the word “obey” from their vows. Princess Diana famously omitted the word “obey” from her vows when she married Prince Charles in 1981.

By careful planning of the words to be spoken and sung at their wedding, the bride and groom have a good opportunity to further express their love for one another.

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